DEAR ANNIE: My husband and I’ve been married for nearly 16 years. Two months in the past, I came upon that he has been having affairs just about the entire time.
He has been hooking up with a person for 14 years and has been having random hookups with women and men off Craigslist for years. He’s had a girlfriend since final August. They’ve journeys deliberate this fall to Puerto Rico.
He’s not sorry he’s been dishonest. He’s sorry I came upon. He has no intention of stopping. He’s simply dwelling his finest life.
I’m devastated. I don’t understand how I’ve been so silly and clueless. How do I transfer on?
DEAR CLUELESS: I’m very sorry that you’re going by means of this. The excellent news is that the worst is over. You now know who this man actually is. Don’t spend one other minute with him. The entrance windshield is way larger than the rearview mirror. Transfer ahead to discover a good therapist to heal from the trauma you simply endured, and transfer on to stay your finest life — crammed with honesty and integrity. It’s on the market, ready for you.
DEAR ANNIE: I lately wrote a verify for garden care, however then the man determined he needs money as a substitute. I instructed him to carry again the verify and I’ll give him money.
It has been nearly three weeks, and he retains not exhibiting as much as obtain it. It’s changing into very annoying; he claims he’s busy and may’t meet up with me. What ought to I do?
— Garden Upkeep
DEAR LAWN MAINTENANCE: It may very well be that he actually is busy and it’s a small quantity for him, so to not fear. Nonetheless, if he needs money, he ought to provide you with again the verify as quickly as doable. If he doesn’t have time, there’s all the time the U.S. Postal Service.
Within the meantime, contact your financial institution and have your verify canceled ASAP. Till you have got confirmed that he has not cashed the verify and that it’s canceled, no money.
DEAR ANNIE: When folks consider cities, I believe it is very important measure how simple it’s to take a stroll. To me, dwelling in a walkable metropolis is extremely essential. There are fewer vehicles, which is best for the setting.
Extra folks strolling means a more healthy populace. Strolling is a really environment friendly method to keep youthful. It makes you happier. It saves lives. And the economics of being in a walkable metropolis are quite a few, from elevated residence values to eliminating the price of proudly owning a automotive. And it helps make a neighborhood a group.
DEAR WALKING: Thanks in your letter. Strolling is a good way to remain wholesome. It helps each your bodily well being and psychological readability — and it’s a good way to loosen up and have enjoyable.
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